Talking about school to your child can be quite complicated at times. Sometimes they are reluctant to share their day at school with you at once. And is it really necessary to know every detail when your child isn’t in a good mood? And how do we become good listeners and respond effectively? Obviously there isn’t a right way or time to ask these questions. Since each child is different, what works for the other child may not work on your child. Here are a few suggestions.
Greet your child enthusiastically. Don’t begin with a “How was school?” Use phrases and sentences that convey affection such as “It’s great to see you!” or “I missed you!” or simply, “I hope you had a good day,” These statements with their sentimental value are appealing to the child and as a result, urge them to speak further.
The first question needn’t be right after they step into the room. Let them have some snacks, indulge in some outdoor games, or simply relax for a while. (Even we grownups like to put our feet up and talk later after a long day at work, right?)
Gather more details about your child’s life at school, either from them or their teachers. This means that the questions you pose are more valuable and personal to the child. If you know the English teacher who reads a story almost every day, you can ask questions such as “Did Miss Jane read to you?”, “What did she read today”
It’s also best not to beat around the bush. If you want to know about the math test, just ask “How did you do on the math test?” Children aren’t fond of sneaky conversation. But one has to keep in mind that frequent questions on the tests will lead the children to thinking that this is all you care about.
Face-to-face interrogations can be avoided for good. You might do better in situations where you’re not face-to-face like the car or while going on about other activities like when your child is taking a bath or while you are cooking.
You can also let children themselves find solution to the problem at hand. Let them begin to think for themselves. This does not mean that you have to turn a blind eye to their problems. You can assist them as they formulate decisions and suggest them alternative ways to handle situations when they come up with impetuous ideas. “This is a way to help your child see you as an ally who will support him when problems come up. By helping your child figure it out for himself, you are also giving him a whole set of tools for solving the problems independently as he gets older,” advises Diane Levin, Ph.D.
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